Helping Children Cope with Grief

We are living in a sad and confusing time, especially for a child. From COVID to the Ukraine, we are saturated with loss. And even if your child has been spared the horrors of the nightly news, the odds are they will experience, at some point, the death of a pet or grandparent or family member or friend or teacher or…. Grief and loss are part of life, but how do we talk to our children about it?

We are living in a sad and confusing time, especially for a child. From COVID to the Ukraine, we are saturated with loss. And even if your child has been spared the horrors of the nightly news, the odds are they will experience, at some point, the death of a pet or grandparent or family member or friend or teacher or…. Grief and loss are part of life, but how do we talk to our children about it?

Here are links to resources that can help. Books are a great way to open the conversation with young children. The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia was indispensable when my father passed away. My ten-year-old daughter connected with Buscaglia’s use of the seasons, and all the images created a wonderful metaphor for her to place Grandpa’s death in a context she could understand. It didn’t take her grief and sadness away, but giving us a way to talk about death made it part of the flow of life.

From classics like Freddie, to a number of wonderful new books, these are a great place to start. Books we love for young children include:

Drawing pictures, writing stories, or creating a collage of your child’s experiences and memories of the loved one who died, is another beautiful way to work with grief in a healthy way. Here are just a few books that offer some lovely activities to help your child process their grief and sadness.

And you can find more great books here:

When it comes to talking to children, just remember to be yourself. Your kids know when you’re hurting, so don’t try to hide it. They are probably hurting too, so being direct, honest, and kind is a simple way to connect. Here are some great videos about how to talk to the young ones in your life:

We have found these resources to be helpful in talking to our children. We hope they are for you, as well.

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