Passover is the most family- centered Jewish Holiday. Those who have lost a loved one are living with their sadness when others are celebrating a festive meal.
Although this Holiday is heavy in tradition, it could be the time for you to evaluate what you do and don’t want at your seder this year, and possible new rituals and traditions. If you have just recently experienced a loss, it is important to remember that it is okay to be sad or feel like you cannot attend religious services or a seder while you are mourning.
If you make the decision to attend or hold a seder, this will be an opportune time to reflect. Getting together with family members can be therapeutic and while it may be difficult, there is comfort in speaking about those who have passed, and may help process the meaning of your loss. Continuing a tradition that your dearly departed loved, or preparing their favourite foods can also be a way to honour their memory.
For those trying to help someone with their grief, suggest looking at photographs and letters. With their permission, place some of these items on the table, along with photographs, that way the deceased person’s presence is felt and acknowledged. Reflect on their legacy and ask everyone in attendance to reflect on the impact the person who has passed had on them.
Zekher tzadik livrakha : May their memory be a blessing.
